Sunday, March 29, 2015

Sharing The Laundry Job

I was excited when I received a mail from BlogAdda two weeks back, saying that I have been selected for the #WashBucketChallenge activity post my #ShareTheLoad blog post “The Official Laundry Officer”. And yesterday, I finally received the Ariel Matic sample pack. 

The activity asked that I take up the #WashBucketChallenge activity with the male members of the house. I am happy and proud to say that in our household, washing clothes by the men is not a challenge but a regular household activity.

Almost two and a half years ago I got married and became part of this wonderful family. Till the time I got a full time job in this new city, I used to do the laundry regularly. There are four men in the house, so you can imagine the amount of dirty laundry. In our modern world, the washing machine is a blessing, isn't it? Also, one or the other of the boys would do their bit. But once I started to work full time, they understood that laundry cannot be kept piled up till the end of the week. So whenever anyone of them is home, they do some part of the laundry. Even the one who never did any laundry, volunteered to do it whenever he was home.

When my husband is home, he challenges himself to empty the entire laundry basket and spends the better part of the day in doing the laundry. My father-in-law helps my mother-in-law in doing laundry. So you see, doing the laundry by men in our family is not a taboo, but a helping hand even to the homemakers. 
My husband with the Ariel Matic pack and washing machine
In today’s world, with a washing machine in almost every home, men should not shy away from doing the laundry anymore. On the contrary I feel, they should feel liberated by the fact that they are not dependent on the women of the house, washer-man/woman or the maid for their clean clothes. And I am sure in due time, doing the laundry will not be seen as a challenge to men but a regular activity.
A big thanks to and Ariel India for this wonderful initiative.
This post is a part of the #WashBucketChallenge activity at is association with Ariel India.

Monday, March 23, 2015

The Great and Powerful A to Z Theme Reveal Blogfest!

This is my second year of AtoZ Challenge. 2014 was fun. I discovered several good blogs and bloggers whom I started following closely.

In the 2014 Challenge, I chose "Places" as my theme. I had almost all of my posts scheduled and things were quite smooth. But this year I might have a tough time due to time constraints. With just one day off from work in a week, AtoZ 2015 is going to be a real challenge. Nevertheless, I am looking forward to it and aspire to survive.

"Names are an important key to what a society values.  Anthropologists recognize naming as 'one of the chief methods for imposing order on perception.'"  ~David S. Slawson

This year I have decided on "Names" as my theme. Each post will be about the name of one my loved ones or friends, any peculiar name, a name which has inspired me or just a name which I really like. I have been always inquisitive about meanings of names and its significance in our lives.

"From our ancestors come our names, but from our virtues our honors."  ~Proverb

1 month and 26 names. I hope my readers would once again extend their love and support to me. Do hang on with me dear well-wishers. And all the best to all the participants!! Read you on the field :)

Sunday, March 8, 2015

The Oil For Your Lamp

We women, by nature, are communal beings. Nurturing, caring, and loving are all termed as feminine qualities and rightly so. We have always been givers rather than takers. And sadly, that has become the only accepted aspect of our personality over time. And when we do dare think about ourselves, we come across as selfish women.

Instead of being known as an individual, we represent someone's daughter, sister, wife or mother. We become so much wrapped up in carrying out the duties and responsibilities of these identities that we forget that we are someone too.  And even if we remember, we don't do it without a sense of guilt.

An year back, I received the following video clip on Whats-App.  It is actually a promotion for the book called "Oil For Your Lamp" by Lisa Hammond and B J Gallagher. But it talks about a essential truth.

The book mentions:
Mother Teresa said, "To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it." Most women are so busy filling the lamps of the people they love that they let their own lamps run low. They spend so much time and energy taking care of their children, husbands, aging parents, friends, neighbors, bosses, coworkers, and others, that they often neglect themselves.

When we are sick, we try out home remedies instead of going to the doctor. We carry out all of our responsibilities in-spite of ill health. We give up our own dreams of having a career so that our husbands and children can have fulfilling careers and education. We give up pursuing our hobbies and passions so that our families can have all of our spare time. We continue with our dissatisfying jobs so that our families can have satisfying lives. We make small and big sacrifices so that our loved ones can have it all. We confine ourselves to boundaries and we actually forget that we have the right to ourselves too.

Since birth, we have been conditioned to believe that we are born to give. That to think of our own happiness first is selfish and  narrow. That we are meant to make sacrifices, adjustments and compromises. And this conditioning defines our choices and lives. Those of us who choose not to stick to this conditioning are termed as rebels and unladylike. 

Instead of being happy first, we try to find our happiness in others. We believe that the only way we can be happy is by making others happy. But we cannot be more wrong than this. How can we make others happy when we ourselves are hollow and empty? How can we light up others' lives when our own lamps do not have any oil?

But what is our oil? Our health is our oil. Our friends are our oil. Our favourite writer is our oil. Our favourite televison sitcom is Our oil. Our wardrobe, our music, our garden, our hobbies can be our oil. Our education or financial independence can be our oil. Even our salon time or nap time can be our oil. All these things have the power to make us happy and content. So I believe that happiness is our oil.

So ladies, take out time to do what makes you happy. Believe me, you cannot spread happiness unless and until you are happy yourself. If reading makes you happy, read. If singing makes you happy, sing. If watching a movie makes you happy, watch. If painting makes you happy, paint. You want to travel, do it. You want to have a career, pursue it. You want to make a difference, start it. For what makes you happy, is your oil. And to keep your lamp burning to spread light and warmth, you need your oil. So be courageous, think about your well-being too. And to do it aloud.