Wednesday, February 25, 2015


Yesterday while browsing through my Facebook page, I came across the above quote. And it got me thinking, "Is it really always possible to do so?"

It is not that I have not removed "toxic" people from my life before. Yes, I have done it. Some were once my "good friends" who turned rogue. While others were acquaintances. It is easy to do that when you are not living in the same place as that person. Slowly you are able to discontinue all connections and detoxify your life completely. I know those "toxins" must consider me a bitch. But I had to do that for my own good.

But what do you do when you can't avoid such toxins? What do you do when you have to meet them on a regular basis or worse, share the roof with them? What do you do when the toxin is a relative or a co-worker? Someone you can absolutely not avoid!

At times, these toxins might even be situations instead of people. Situations you don't like to be in but cannot come out of them either. Situations both on professional and personal fronts. But again, toxic situations are created by toxic people, right!

Such toxins can gnaw up your peace of mind. They make you irritable, unhappy and teary-eyed. They make you feel incompetent, incapable, incompatible and inadequate. The toxic side-effects can sour your personal lives as well.  And slowly the real you is subdued and you are reduced to someone fake. Someone who is forced to behave in a certain way to avoid being judged or criticized, and to avoid unwanted consequences. Can you imagine what does doing that for a long time does to you. Over a time, you will just stop living.

Sometimes it is possible to distance yourselves and get away. And many a times, all you can do is pray that He gets you away from these toxins in some miraculous way. Until then, you just have to learn to live with them. Compromise and adjust. But if matters are still in your hand, just go ahead and cleanse your life of these toxins. Until then, detoxification will only sound good in theory.

Saturday, February 21, 2015

My Valentine Moment

This Valentine's Day was a beautiful sunny day. It was also a Saturday and so a perfect excuse to go on a date. But it was a working day for both Az and myself. While his was a half day, mine was full. We finally decided that I would take a half day leave and then we would spend the rest of the day together outside home.

The chilling Delhi winters were already waning away fast and so the weather was very pleasant. It was a beautiful morning. It was a bright and sunny day; a day which does not fail to cheer you up. I was already having a good feeling about the day.

Saturday is the only day in the week when I get a seat in the metro coach. So I got comfortable with my book, although it was only for a short distance. At my station, there was a rush at the exit gates. Queues were forming fast at each gate.

As I was coming out of the exit gates of the metro station, I heard an elderly lady's voice behind me, "Aaram se, aaram se (Do not rush, move slowly)." The voice slightly authoritative but full of concern. Once I was on the other side of the gates, I could not resist looking back. It was indeed an old lady. And there was an older man next to her, presumably her husband.

The husband was probably rushing towards the exit gate when the wife asked him not to. She was worried that he would stumble and hurt himself. And there was no need to hurry. Looking at them, standing together in their golden years, at that metro station brought an involuntary smile to my lips. They looked so beautiful. I didn't know what the day ahead was going to be like. But that moment was definitely my valentine's day moment.