Monday, March 31, 2014

Progress Plant IV: Spring in my Home

My pot plants have been dormant for a long time. Since the winter had set in, their growth and progress had been real slow. At times I was confused whether they are still breathing or not. But the succulent stems kept my hopes alive. 

This year winter decided to overstay in Delhi. It was in mid-March that spring finally decided that it was time to kick her out. My plants, too, took the cue and threw back their comfortable blankets, stretched their limbs and soaked in the sun. Buds turned into leaves and flowers bloomed. And spring came to my home.

Here are some glimpses of spring in my home.


Friday, March 21, 2014

A to Z Theme Reveal Day

I have signed up for the Blogging From A to Z Challenge [April 2014]. This will be the second blogging challenge I shall be participating. In this challenge, the participants will need to post on their blogs on themes starting with the letter A on April 1, B on April 2 and so on. Sundays are the days off for the post. So, on April 30, the last post will be on a theme starting with the letter Z.

The participants can either have or not have a theme for all their posts. I have decided that I shall keep a theme. And my theme is PLACES...basically places I have been to and I shall about my experiences there. I have musing with a couple of other themes also. I am not going to say anything about them as I shall be needing ideas for the next year's challenge. (Yes, I am being quite ambitious!)

Happy Theme Reveal Day to all the participants.

I hope you, my readers, will support me in this challenge as you have been doing with my regular posts. I hope to see you here throughout the month of April 2014. The blogging challenge kicks off on April 1st, 2014.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Women and Food

How do you look at a girl/woman who loves to eat (I mean the quantity)? Not with kind eyes I am sure.  And a boy/man? That's normal right? Women who love food are over-eaters and men who love food are foodies. Women are meant to cook and men are meant to eat, right? Huh! Nonsense.

Most of the times when I dine with men (all age groups), a question pops in mind. The question is to all men out there. How many of you actually consider taking lesser portions in your first helping so that the food is equitably available for all? At home, do you think for a moment that the woman (women) who cooked for you painstakingly also gets a portion as she would like to? I don't think so. And if you really do, then my boy, you are a gem.

You might say I am judgmental and going overboard. But I am just saying what I have been observing since childhood. I distinctly remember a story of an aunty whose family consists of her husband and two sons. While the husband and the boys were quite healthy and heavy, she was quite thin. She used to narrate how when she cooked meat and placed it on the table, all that used to left for her were neck and bony pieces which the men did not like.

When my grandmother got married and went into a joint family, she along with the other daughters-in-law cooked for the huge family but ate at the last, after the men and children. And what they got was leftovers. And this is what usually happens in households. But is this right? I feel the only time that due attention is given to what a woman is eating is when she is pregnant. Pardon me for the bluntness. 

I have seen girls eating very little in social gatherings, mostly out of fear that what people will say if she is seen with a plate-load of food.Slim girls having little portions are considered ideal.

But why such mannerisms and perception?

May be the answer lies in our upbringing and culture. Girls are always taught to be considerate, sharing, submissive and sacrificing (including matters of food). And those who don't adhere to such behaviour aren't considered to be good sisters, wives or mothers. They are also told that fat girls are not ideal brides and they should be slim and trim to get good grooms. Sons are seldom told that they have fixed portions and to leave portions for their sister or mother. But daughters are always taught to be sacrificing or they learn that by observing their mothers. And the irony is that it is the women in your home who cook.

Your mother, wife or sister knows what your favourite dish/fruit is, saves you food when you are not around, asks you if you are hungry and cooks for you day after day, meal after meal without complaining. Do you do the same for her or at least bother to give that a thought? How many of you actually know the favourite dish or at least fruit of your mother, sister or wife? Have you ever tried helping your mother or sister in the kitchen? She is also a human being. She also gets tired or falls sick. She also needs her strength and nutrition. And yes, she also loves food. Your saying that the food is delicious (if you do)  is only half the job done, if you don't take care that she is eating well too. 

Luckily things have been changing over the generations. Women by nature are sacrificing in different spheres of life. But they are at least shedding their inhibitions including the matter of eating. Also men are becoming more caring.

So men, good and tasty food is not only your birthright. Women also need and enjoy it as much as you do. Even if they cook it so painstakingly, they are the ones who take the last serving. So learn to be thankful, caring and considerate to the women in the kitchen. And ladies, please bring up your boys as your daughters, and believe me the women in their later lives will be grateful to you.