Sunday, January 30, 2011

The Joy of Shopping

I simply love to shop. But I don't shop till I drop. And so I cannot be labelled as a shopaholic either.I realized how much shopping can be liberating after I attained financial independence. Earning my own bread and butter gave me license to spend.

I am often being remarked on how often I get stuff for myself and the house. Though I don't shop in bulk, I buy things often. Be it apparels, accessories, gifts, cosmetics, books or anything else. The truth is buying things, no matter how petty they are, makes me happy. When I am sad or I get lonely, shopping gives me refuge. When I achieve something, I shop to celebrate. When there is some occasion, I shop to gift myself. And sometimes it becomes a source of entertainment. Shopping experience is truly my spirit lifter.

I am a shoe fetish. But footwear shopping often ends in frustration. The reason being my shoe size. It is a couple of times smaller than the standard size (No, I am not mentioning my size here), I hardly get it at one go. And so if I get my size in a single attempt, it has to be my lucky day.

When I was still studying and had limited pocket money, I promised myself that I would at least buy a book every month when I start earning. And I  am almost successful to keep that promise each month. And I mostly do that online. A year back or so, the bug of online shopping bit me. And since then, I have been buying things online including books. It is amazing how you can shop sitting in front of your PC and getting the stuff right at your doorstep.

Men has always acknowledged shopping as the most irritating activity of women. But they fail to acknowledge it as a wonderful stress buster. As Elayne Boosler rightly quoted, "When women are depressed, they eat or go shopping.  Men invade another country.  It's a whole different way of thinking". And I feel that unless we are shopping ourselves to bankruptcy, it is a healthy habit!!!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Sorry--the hardest word

In the recent times saying "Sorry" seems to be becoming increasingly difficult for us. Be it our personal, professional or day-to day life. It reflects the fact that we are so much reluctant to admit our fault or mistake, no matter how trifle the fault may be. This is evident in smallest of examples.

I travel in public buses everyday to and fro work. Many a times, my head becomes victim to the elbows of ladies passing by my side. Sometimes my head is hit so hard, but the person never remember to apologize. In another incident, I was wearing pointed heels. That evening I was very tired and weary about something. And in the bus, I stepped on lady's feet in the crowd. And I am embarrassed to say that I forgot to say sorry that day. These are small instances but they really got me thinking.

We will have innumerable situations in our personal as well as professional lives where we find it really very difficult to say sorry. A trifle with a colleague, but why should I say 'sorry', let the other person apologize first. A quarrel with our fiancee/spouse/sibling/friend, I won't say 'sorry' first. These are our normal thoughts. This is because we associate  the word 'sorry' with admitting defeat. The ultimate culprit being our big inflated ego. And we choose to forget that having a fat ego can easily break invaluable relationships. This is not only restricted to our individual lives but extends to the entire human community.

Like any siblings, me and my sister fight a lot. When we were younger, we would go for days without talking to each other. But now we have become wiser, and when we have quarrels, we say sorry and make up immediately (that means within a couple of hours!!). I once had a trifle with a classmate and we didn't communicate for almost a year.

Keeping a fat ego for a pet has never benefited anyone nor it will ever. Saying 'sorry' do not always means admitting defeat. It also means that 'I care'. So we should all try and start saying 'sorry' whenever needed even if "Sorry seems to be the hardest word". And trust me, it always makes you feel better.